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“Hey, Beautiful!” – The Truth Behind White-Collared Internet Stalking in India


It is often said that it is difficult to understand the mind of a woman but it is equally difficult to know the mentality of a man! Recently ‘#MeToo’ went viral both on social media as women from all walks of life started to use it for bringing into light the prevalence of sexual harassment in the society.  

Almost all women have been subjected to some or the other kind of sexual harassment. Internet stalking is one of the most common these days. From poking, friend requests, to personal messaging, messenger voice/video calls and misuse of personal information females are at the receiving end on a regular basis. This is done at home or at a lone space with the power of the internet in hand via a laptop or a mobile phone, this explains the adjective of ‘White-collared’ attached to it.

It is more of mental than physical torture for the woman. However, the pleasure derived out of it is largely psychological. It is not the actual gain one seeks from this but a short-lived cyber pleasure or maybe it is a matter of taking chance. Whatever the reason for doing this be but white collared internet stalking in India isn’t cool at all. Moreover, it is a punishable offense amounting to imprisonment.



A classic case of internet stalking in India is seen when a girl posts an advertisement for reselling an old device or a household item. Now selling via websites, applications and through social networking groups is a very common practice nowadays.  It should be a simple task for most but it isn’t as simple as it seems especially for women.

Here is the step by step pattern followed by such stalkers:

Step Number 1: Initial Professional Seeding

Suppose a female from a group of commoners like us posts an advertisement on a buy & sell website or group then there are chances of the advertisement catching more eyeballs. Sheerly because of the seller photo or just because of a feminine name. There may be many posts with same product with better deals but for a stalker, the advertisement posted by a female is what matters. Generally, the initial responses are quite to the point, after which the stalking game begins. But some ‘gentlemen’ are direct starters pinging on the chat with a “Hi!”, “Wanna Chat?” or “Beautiful Pic..”

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Step Number 2: 50 Shades of Negotiations

After the initial talks, the negotiation starts soon after. Here there are two types of behavior demonstrated by these pervert mentality cyber beings.

The first kind of stalkers, go on from being professional to friendly while negotiations happen. The extent of it is that they try to establish the girl’s social presence and later send friend requests or follow them.

While the second kind would still maintain the level of seriousness about the execution of deal till the time they manage to get the contact number. Once received harassment over blank calls, WhatsApp messages, and voice/video calls begin. In some cases, the girl’s number is shared by the pervert among his like-minded friends. This further aggravates the problem.

Stalking till this step is still manageable with ways like blocking the person, talking about it to your family, reporting to police and more.

But the next level of this internet stalking which a common girl like you and me has to undergo while trying to sell a device is really ugly.

Step No. 3:  The Meet

In most websites or groups meant for buying and selling old stuff, one needs to personally meet the buyer and handover the product in return for payment. Judging a prospective buyer as safe for the transaction in a short span of time is a difficult task. This step while executing a resell deal has a potential to be dangerous for the girl who wants buy or sell a product. For a cyber Romeo, it is a scenario of “Aaj unse pehli mulaqaat hogi..” But in no time a girl’s integrity is at risk. The fear quadruples if the stalker is joined by his friends. Even carrying a male accompaniment doesn’t help much here as seen in the past few sexual harassment cases.

As of now, only a few reselling websites have come to understand this type of harassment that women undergo. One such website named ‘Cashify, that is primarily for selling old devices have made reselling so simple. One doesn’t need to indulge in negotiation, no need to interact with 10-15 odd prospective buyers, no tension of device pickup and the best part is the instant cash payment. This process is as safe as receiving a courier or a home delivery. Plus absolutely no chance of being cyberstalked! 

Use coupon code CLEANCASH and get an additional Rs.250 on the sale of your gadgets.

Have you ever been a victim of any internet stalking, do write to us?

P.S: 'White-collared' term does not have a legal implication.

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(28) Comments

  1. Being a woman and surviving in this world has become difficult in every means… Thankfully Cashify is thinking about risk-proofing when women are dealing.

  2. jhilmil says:

    Oh its a serious issue and everyday someone or the other goes through it. Great to know about how makes life simpler

  3. One of my friends had a harrowing experience while selling an old item online. This problem is real and can escalate quickly. Thanks for sharing the legal info. Cashify is doing a good job by eliminating the negotiation risk.

  4. I love the analogy you have derived here. Well researched and threaded

  5. You have given an indepth knowledge about cyber crime. Thanks for sharing this post It was great reading it.

  6. Internet stalking is very common these days. Even I received many unknown request on social channels everyday. Indeed cashify platform gives secure services

  7. This is such a serious issue and we need to literally deal with this almost everyday.. Thanks for penning it in details

  8. This is such a serious issue….I always face stalking if I post anything on OLx or any such sites…I didn’t know about these legal thing thanks for sharing!!!

  9. Oh yes. everyday, My social media is full of such messages. This is such a great way to resell and without any worries.

  10. I agree with you. Every girl faces this problem on all social media networks. And its quite serious issue for girls. Thats great if this site can solve this problem for women. Now women can freely sell their stuffs through this website.

  11. Omg this is such an awareness post . I was not knowing this about and I always recieve such messages seriously. Kudos to you for sharing this

  12. Nisha says:

    Most of the stalkers get away easily too. I think Cashify can really help in this aspect of women safety. Thanks for introducing the app to us. I shall try it to sell my old smart phone.

  13. Its a serious issue thanks for highlighting it. Websites like Cashify need to be reached among more and more people for safe reselling deals.

  14. Internet stalking is a common issue now a days. thanks for introducing us to cashify .

  15. I came across me too campaign too. Good that Cashify is safe to use for women! ?

  16. the moment i dont recognize someone, i block them but yes, when we are dealing with unknown people on a buy or sell platform it becomes very difficult.

  17. Internet stalking is very common issue these days… Thanks for introducing Cashify app here.. Will use it for sure.

  18. Abhinav says:

    Cashify solves the problem of many female sellers. Quite innovative.

  19. You have focused on an important issue of cyberstalking while providing an alternative. Cashify seems like a boon.

  20. Seems Cashify is doing a great job! Thanks for sharing such a relevant and needed article!

  21. Cashify seems like a promising option! Have to do many transactions online will try this one

  22. Can’t agree more than this, it is a very common issue of stalking that girls face with increasing use of social media. Thanks for the Info. Cashify is indeed a great site to sell off the old phones!

  23. Abhinav says:

    Oops, never knew these things happened. Good to hear that companies like Cashify safeguard customer’s privacy.

  24. Good to know about cashify… i truly wasn’t aware

  25. This really seems like the need of the hour.. with women security always at risk Cashify is the real deal.. great stuff

  26. Preeti says:

    This is such an in-depth post and so well articulated. Thanks for bringing up this issue.

  27. Aanchal Rathore says:

    Cashify also solve my problem….Feeling satisfied with cashify service.

  28. This post is very informative and heart touching,women should be our first priroty.

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