In 2003, almost all tabloids carried one small piece of news which many people might have overlooked also. It was the news of scientists figuring out a mathematical equation for calculating one’s Happiness!
Yes, this is true and the equation actually read like this:
Happiness = P + (5xE) + (3xH)
Where ‘P’ stands for Personal Characteristics, like for example the outlook on life, adaptability and resilience. While ‘E’ stands for Existence and is related to health, financial stability and friendships. ‘H’ represented Higher order needs including self-esteem, expectations, ambitions and sense of humour. Life Coach, Pete Cohen, who co-wrote the equation then elaborated that a common man could reach to the quantifying value for all these variables for ultimately calculating his or her HappYness level by simply answering a set of 4 questions. Each answer had to be given a rating of 1 to 10. The value of first two question on adding up would give the value of ‘P’ in the equation while the third and fourth answers would yield the values for ‘E’ & ‘H’ respectively.
However, Pete also admitted then that the equation could seem a bit complex for the common man.
We aren’t even sure if this equation got approved or trashed or may be updated in the span of 15 long years. But for that matter, isn’t HappYness itself a complex feeling to understand? It is not just the common man who finds it difficult to understand his reasons for being ‘Happy’ or ‘ Not Being Happy’. Even noted scientists, and great achievers holding a leading position in the varied field of life cannot understand all about HappYness!
Based on our experience of life and interaction in society we tried to reason out why a person feels Happy in a certain way and the other person doesn’t. Well, we failed miserably in this. But we were able to rather narrow down to 5 trigger points that would literally compel one to feel Happy if one is alert about the thoughts going on in his or her mind and of course heart.
Here is the list of the
Compelling 5 to HappYness!
Do let us know if you agree or disagree with us on the same:
Seeing the Under Privileged:
Now we don’t really want to mock at one’s misery by mentioning this point cause taking birth in a rich or poor background is not really in hands of anybody. Every day as we cross the streets in the busy lanes from our home to office and back, we see many people, ladies and even kids who are living in a pitiable state. Some don’t have enough to eat some don’t have bare minimum clothes to even cover their body. Especially children, on one hand, this part of the educated working world is cautious about the smallest of the vaccinations to be given to our children and then the underprivileged part of the world where their fate is dependent on luck & God’s will. Seeing them and realizing how blessed we are, one will surely feel light from all worries and compel self to be Happy!
Being in the company of a Handicapped or a Terminally Ill Person:
Have you been anytime to a shelter home where mentally disturbed people are kept or in a hospital where terminally ill people are treated? Trust us these are the best places to visit when one has failed miserably at any point in life. These places make one realize a gift that is supreme from any mortal achievement a human could do in his entire life. That supreme gift is the gift of a HEALTHY LIFE! Many of us would have known among our family or friends a person -adult or child, who got a life-threatening disease out of nowhere. Knowing such people would actually make us value the gift of life and happYness would certainly knock at our door time and again cause no failure is more precious than a good Life!
Realizing that we are an INDIVIDUAL entity at the end of it all!
Often we hear the phrase that every one of us has come into this world alone but think from the perspective of a mother. While in the labour room it is only the mother who has to bear the pain of delivering the child. In an operation theatre similarly, every patient being treated has to face the knife alone. Then when we are hale and hearty why do we become so dependent on others! Dependent on parents, spouses, siblings, children, friends and more! Dependency brings in expectations which cause the trouble. If we start to put in a conscious effort to constantly remind ourselves the individual entity concept then we will be Happy in all situations. As in that scenario, nobody else could affect us so much so as to disbalance our HappYness Quotient.
Realizing that LIFE isn’t a Straight Line!
When does a life gets symbolized as a straight line? Only when a person’s heartbeat stops. So if even the existence of lively human body is an ongoing collection of hi and low points then why does our HappYness depend so much upon the life events? Realizing the fact that life isn’t a straight line will surely create more space for HappYness!
Being a Genuinely Good Person!
Now one might ask what do we mean by being a ‘Genuinely Good Person’? It is simple, most times most people are living a fake life, faking even their persona claiming to be good, doing noble acts just to impress somebody else. A genuinely good person (GGP) is the one who doesn’t have to claim to the world or boast about being good but knows in his hearts of heart that he is a noble soul. Even if one tries to be GGP then also mind and soul start to become free from the ill effects of the world per say and the inner HappYness gets unlocked slowly but steadily.
WHy we wrote HappYness and not the Happiness because of this –>>>> Leaving you with a must watch scene from The Pursuit of Happyness!
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This post is written as a part of the “Happiness blog train” presented by Blogsikka and Momsmethods and sponsored by “Nayasa”. Nayasa has come up with a new range of bottles. This range of bottles are insulated, they maintain the liquid’s temperature inside the bottle either hot or cold. The new designs are practical and aesthetic. From holding in palms to the cap, everything is designed carefully. Thank you Saba from www.saba-relishingrascal-scribbles.com for introducing me.
I would like to next introduce you to ‘Rashi’, a mother with a heart for travel. She loves speed! In her free time, she loves to read, write, and sometimes perhaps sit idle, doing nothing at all. Her blog is http://liveityoung.com.